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The Art Of Fucking: Anal Sex


Anal Sex



My first experience with anal sex was anything but good. We were young, horny and constantly looking for something new to try so anal was a logical step in our sexual exploration. In our youthful innocence and impatience we did only the briefest research. We knew that things had to be taken slow, and that lubrication and relaxation were keys to success for achieving not only penetration but also to make it more comfortable for me. Sadly in our ignorance we figured that a lubricated condom would be enough. We quickly found out that wasn't the case when he attempted entry. Lesson learned that night, while friction may feel good for vaginal sex, when it comes to anal it can be extremely uncomfortable and even down right painful. It took us a while to learn the ins and outs (no pun intended) of anal sex. Back in the day before the internets popularity we where were pretty much left with vague descriptions in sexual health articles and the unrealistic portrayals seen in pornography and of course trial and error. Eventually got it right and even after the multiple failed attempts scarring my sexual psyche I came to enjoy it.

There are a few key things that need to come together in order for both partners to enjoy anal.

Relaxation
It helps if the receiving partner relaxes. Being nervous can cause muscles to tense. Maybe incorporate a sensual massage into foreplay.

Preparation
This can be achieved in a variety of different ways. A butt plug, anal dildo or anal vibrator or even with fingers again this can be easily done during foreplay. Don't rush things, give the muscles enough time and work to stretch and loosen. Just make sure that any toy being used has a flared base for safety reasons. It also is a bonus if the toy is made of 100% silicone or glass as both can be easily sterilized after use. 

Lubricant
A good quality lube is a must. For the most part simple water based ones are inferior and might not work. I prefer silicone based ones like Mood Silicone, Wicked Ultra or Sliquid Silver but there are other great quality lubes out there for you to try. The right amount is another important thing, it might take some experimenting until you find the right amount. Just remember that spit does not make a good lubricant for anal sex. For my silicone based toys I use VLube Water based Gel Lubricant

Patience
This one is important to keep in mind. Take your time and don't just expect to slide right in. It can can take a little time for the receiver to accommodate the full length and girth of your erection or a toy if you are using one.


Communication and Respect 
The receiver should not be shy about giving feedback and their partner should respect them. If they say slow down then slow down and if they say stop then stop! Also remember that just because your last partner enjoyed anal does not mean that your current partner will. Each and every person is different and those differences need to be respected. Also do not pressure your partner nor should you ever engage in sexual acts that you yourself are not comfortable with or do not enjoy.






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