Naughtier than fiction: Three is Not Always a Crowd

Part Two

Three is Not Always a Crowd

1 guy and 2 Girls three-ways.

In Part one of this series I briefly brought up threesomes while discussing the terms of my prior open relationship. Threesomes have been something that I am quite often asked about. Usually the person asking about it will offer up the information that they and their partner have been discussing participating in one to perhaps spice up their bedroom activities or to bring to reality a fantasy that one or both has. While I am firm believer of to each their own, I always have to caution others in relation to this topic.

Three-ways are often times a male fantasy, perhaps even it is something that they jerk off to. Two girls not only pleasing him but each other. I have yet to encounter a single male that was attracted to females who hasn't thought about it at least once. More often not they picture a very specific scenario in their mind, and feel confident enough that they would be able to allow their girlfriend the chance to be with another female just to make that scenario a reality.

We have all heard the cautionary tales of three-ways gone wrong. Perhaps you, dear reader, even have a friend who has one to relate. They warn that the reality is far from the fantasy. That jealousy can easily result even if all involved thought it wouldn't. While there is never a guarantee that things won't go horribly wrong there are a few things that can help the parties involved better prepare themselves.

The first rule of any threesome is communication. Not only between the actual couple, but also the “third”. It is a good idea for all parties involved to have a chance to voice not only their expectations but also any concerns and limits that they may have. Except in the cases of a spontaneous threesome that I found myself in a handful of times, things were always discussed before hand in great detail.

The second rule is the placement of rules and boundaries. Some rules may be as simple as the male participant can only engage oral sexual acts but that actual vaginal and/or anal penetration of either one or both females is not allowed. The possibilities of rules are actually endless. I was once involved in one where the other girl allowed the use of toys on her, but she was not comfortable enough to engage in all out girl/girl action.

The third golden rule is respect. Respect not only of yourself but each other. In the above situation I respected the girl enough to not only not push the subject but that during the heat of the moment when she suggested that we 69 that I pulled back and asked her to really think it through. That it was better to not engage in it during this time around, but that it as something that we should discuss out of the moment and not when sexual activities and lust might cloud our judgment.

The fourth rule goes along with number three. If any single person is not comfortable with something, it should be common sense that said activity should not be engaged in. Respect of boundaries is very important. If there is a breach of trust there is also a good possibility that it is going to end bad. This is one of the factors for many post three-way break ups.

The fifth rule is understand that there is a possibility for jealousy to come about. Sure the male may be happy with seeing his girlfriend in throes of carnal passion with another girl in his fantasies. He may even claim to be of the mindset that girl/girl action is in fact not a form of cheating. The male should thoroughly examine his position on this. Again the reality is far different than the fantasy and there is a possibility that either during or after he may come to view it as cheating.

Friendships have been destroyed and couples have broken up over three-ways, but that shouldn't keep you from unless considering the possibility. If conducted properly, and mutual respect is held to high degree before, during and after they can be quite fun.